Wednesday, December 05, 2018

On being female at a bar

public signage via
This Japanese Life
So lastnight at darts we played a team of lovely people we always enjoy (they take way too long smoking between games, but that's a minor thing). We were at their pub.

There was a rather obnoxious drunkard at the bar who kept throwing coasters at us while we were playing - he was throwing them specifically at one of the other team's players and obviously thought he was being cute. I'd had enough and shouted across the bar at him to cut it out, he took offense and shouted he wasn't throwing them at me, I replied that I didn't care and would appreciate it if he'd just stop.

Wednesday, November 14, 2018

What’s your take?

My brother asked me: What's your take on this whole "Dr Hooters" thing?.....is Santa Claus now a woman?

Sunday, November 11, 2018

Loved it: Bohemian Rhapsody - and a response to an open letter

Photograph: Allstar/New Regency Pictures
This week I went - twice - to see Bohemian Rhapsody, the Queen biopic mostly about Freddie Mercury. It was simply amazing, the casting was so spot on I had to keep telling myself that it wasn't actually Brian May up on the screen, but an actor (Gwilym Lee, btw).

While most of my friends who have seen it loved it too, I've seen some bad reviews - mostly people complaining about the inaccuracy of the timelines, a bit of hokeyness regarding the 'tour date montage' (agreed), but I don't let the reviews of others get in the way of my enjoyment.

However, there was an 'open letter' recently on the CBC site, written by someone who not only didn't like it, but had concerns. I felt like I wanted to address it.

Monday, October 29, 2018

Let’s talk


Was just reminded that we don't know when our situation is weird if we don't talk to others.

Thursday, October 04, 2018

Choose your superpower

If I could choose one superpower, it would be the ability to make people feel the consequences of their own actions immediately. Instant Karma.

Monday, October 01, 2018

JFL42 2018

JFL42 is over again for another year and it was amazing. Taking the time off work, and with the goal of seeing 30 shows, in the end I saw 40 shows - 99 separate performers/presenters - in 10 days.

Thursday, July 19, 2018

Tattoo for Dad

I will be getting a tattoo for Dad soon. I was originally thinking I'd get it on the back of my right shoulder, to mirror the one I got for Mum, but now I'm thinking I might put it with Mum's tattoo, and then have one each for my two brothers - but that means I have to figure out what would be best for them, and how it would all go together.

Thursday, July 12, 2018

Terrible bargain

Woman Crying (Comic) #2
Photo by Anne Collier
Courtesy Anton Kern Gallery
This was every day with the Seven Year Jerk:

Thursday, May 31, 2018

Pretentious awakening

“We’re all pawns in this abhorrent game of Nathaniel’s bookdeath.”

- last line spoken to me in a dream this morning, so pretentious it woke me from a sound sleep.

Next fiction I write, it’s going in.

Thursday, May 10, 2018

Can’t we just send him to his room?

We like to think things will be better in the future. You know, jet packs, meals in a pill, an end to disease. And enlightenment, a whole lot of enlightenment. As in, people will finally get along. Self-important jerks need not apply.

But I’m pretty sure they’re still going to be out there — as certain as death and taxes, the condescending ass-hat is a part of life, and always will be. And, while I’m sure it wasn’t David Gerrold’s intention, Bem demonstrates this perfectly. Pity the story itself wasn’t better.

Wednesday, April 25, 2018

What the world owes you

Dear people who thinks the world owes them sex.

The world does not.

Thursday, February 22, 2018

Less douchey ways

There are less douchey ways to disagree with someone. For example, if I say "I like [insert band name]" and you don't, you can always say "They're not to my taste" or "They're not for me" or "I can't get into them" instead of "They're stupid" or "Only idiots listen to them" - and I recognize that I have on occasion been guilty of this myself, but I always try not to be.

Thursday, February 08, 2018

Less control

I've spent a large chunk of my life berating myself for something I suddenly realize I have had far less control over than I had thought. And I just realized something in the past 10 minutes that strengthens that.

Thursday, January 18, 2018

Really nicely

This is an interesting interview. Here's my favourite part of it, which is great and accurate, it's the kind of thing a lot of men don't recognize as a thing: